I like to write blogs on this website about things that have got me thinking. Often these can be connected to my work as a family mediator, and my previous life as a family law solicitors. But that’s not always what I’m initially thinking about.
My twitter profile says “Give something back” and this is something that I am a big believer in. We take a lot from the world and it’s important to keep the balance by giving things back. I also believe that I benefit hugely from help and kindness from friends and family and it’s only fair that I return those favours. In a self-preserving kind of way it’s what makes it work because those who do not return favours may find that their credit runs out. I also think helping each other out makes us all a tiny bit less stressed and we all reap the benefits of happier friends and family.
In the last couple of weeks I saw a link a friend shared on Facebook encouraging people to do one random act of kindness each day during lent. I also recently found out about an Easter egg collection for a women’s prison – the idea is that children visiting their mums in prison get an Easter egg to try to make the visit just a tiny bit nicer. So I have been spreading the word about this and dropping my own Easter eggs off.
I truly believe that if everyone did at least one kind thing every day the world could be a considerably better place. It’s not just a “goody two shoes” type thing, it’s basic science that there has to be a balance to everything and if you’re taking more than you’re giving then things are clearly out of balance. I think it’s this kind of mentality that leads me to want family lawyers, mediators and counsellors to work more closely together. To me it shouldn’t be about the fees targets for law firms, it should all be about what will give the client the very best outcome. Yes law firms have to be commercial to survive but I really believe that if they are giving their clients the very best service regardless of the cost benefit to them, then they will. I mean wouldn’t you recommend the person that gives you the very best service and not the most expensive one?
So my questions today are these:
1. Do you do one kind thing every day?
2. Are you giving enough back to keep the balance with what you’re taking?